Lessons From A Friendship
Saturday, April 28th, 2007Maintaining the ‘intermolecular
forces’ between ‘molecules’ in a friendship.
Ok, ok so I’m a Chemistry geek.
Nothing wrong with that 
I love my friends no matter what.
No matter how people say ‘blood is thicker than water’, I’ve always confided in
my friends whenever things are down, times are hard, and pressure mounts
infinitely. When family has always been about unconditional love for each other
and family pride, friends are the people I share my deepest feelings and thoughts
with. What’s family pride without even decent conversations and communication?
Anyway, my close circle of
friends at college is a fun bunch – they’re always wacky, full of enthusiasm,
and spontaneous. We hang out together, we eat together, we go shopping
together, we play tennis together, we watch movies together – the only thing we
don’t do together is bathe together! They take the monotony out of college life
in the middle of nowhere, and add colour and zest to my everyday life.
Of course, no friendship is
without fights and arguments. Recently I was very depressed, as result from
conflicts with my mom that never seems to end, my getting over of an
infatuation (of all the times to get infatuated it just HAD to be now), and the
sheer pressure of having exams around the corner. Spending time only adds salt
to the wound, so I wanted to take my mind off all the shit and watch the latest
‘Heroes’ episode with my friends, since we’re all fans of the series.
“I’m depressed, wanna watch
‘Heroes together?”
No reply. He must not have
prepaid left.
“Where are you guys?” I sent to
another. Again, no reply, to my dismay.
So I went to one of their rooms,
which is our ‘HQ’ for hanging out. As expected, they were all together, playing
DotA (a multiplayer game) on their laptops, ignoring my presence. “Come on lah,
you guys have been playing all week! Let’s watch ‘Heroes’”
“Later,” one briefly said. I
insisted. I really need to take my
mind off depressing thoughts.
“I said LATER. You watch first.”
Fine. To hell with you guys.
The following day they acted as
if nothing happened. Still in a depressed mood, I distanced myself from them
and even told one of them off. It must have been 3 days we didn’t talk to each
other, and all I ever wanted to hear is an apology that was never said.
Humans have egos, I admit,
because being human myself I still waited until they said a simple ‘Sorry’. I
managed to recover from my shitty mood after thinking things over and praying
to God for guidance. Not that I’m that good or religious a person, but to who
else can you turn to? The Almighty must have heard my silent plight, and I
gathered the guts to push aside my ego. If everyone followed their egocentricity,
no friendship can be saved, right?
I’m not really an excellent
‘talker’ but when it comes to written words; I become a different person – more
frank, more expressive, and more personal. And so I used this to my advantage
and sent messages to them, who went back for the holidays. Technology can bring
people together after all. Now we’re all back in talking terms, and I
definitely prefer it that way.
Moral of the story? Sure, friends
can be insensitive and downright selfish bastards at times, but if everyone
follows their own arrogant heads, forgiveness can never be achieved. We are all
only human, who make mistakes every now and then. So make way for forgiveness,
even if it’s not your fault.
Oh, and never ever ignore a friend in despair,
especially not over DotA.
Saturday, 28/4/2007.
